The ONE Open Secret to Happyness

This Open Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life is available to all who want it. Seeking Happyness? Get it here, now:


Revisiting this Secret in 2018 refreshed and reaffirmed the Life awaiting me in 2004, just as yours is beckoning you to reach out and grasp your "freedom to be Happy" entitlement in this eternal life:   


I personally discovered this Secret in 2004 during my life's journey towards the discovery of Truth:  



Ⓜatilah $ingapura⚠️ said...

@ be careful, study is not 100% correct (nothing is!)

This Harvard study is well known and is often cited...especilly in our modern self-help addicted culture.

There are problems inherent in longitudinal studies. That being said, they can also be useful to give "some idea" of what's going on. However, cognitive biases...like CONFIRMATION BIAS is always present in all human minds, there is simply no way to remove it 100%. So, I would take findings in longitudinal studies with a few grains of salt...they are not "definitive" but can be a case where "close enough is good enough".

The main point of having wondrful close relationships might sound obvious, but is rarely taken seriously in our so-called "developed" modern societies. In fact, it appears that we're becoming increasingly more narcisstic as social media platforms encourage people to "show off how great they are", and that activity (unfortunately) drives the BIGGEST BUSINESS MODELS in today's world: collecting people's data and moneytizing it. (have you seen the cash flow statements of Facebook and Google?)

I am fortunate to live in a city where people are generally warm to one another. When we get off the buses we say "thank you, driver!". When we meet complete strangers on a walk or a jog, we are expected to exchange cheery "good mornings" or some other greeting. Being a very sociable guy, I'm always out and about in Singapore in public. I say "thank you driver" when I get off the bus, and receive bemused looks from the other passengers and even drivers themselves. I don't care.

If the society is going to have individuals who value close relationships, they have to make the effort to get out of their heads and into the real world more often. Suffice it to say, Singaporeans live IN THEIR HEADS way too much..., they are always evaluating, calculating, judging, hedging...this is, IMO, a terrible, stressful and scary way to live.

The basic culture of the Singaporean has to change. Taking the kiasu-kiasi mentality to neurotic extremes has very bad consequences, especially if you are trying to get close to each other. Close relationships go beyond human psychological needs: it is BIOLOGICALLY HARDWIRED.

Ⓜatilah $ingapura⚠️ said...

The Pros and cons of Longitudinal Studies

Anonymous said...

You cannot teach happiness to others.

Not everyone's definition of happiness is the same.

Some equate happiness with good health, some with wealth, some with power and some with spiritual awakenings and some wants all.

Absolute happiness is but a dream. You take some, you have to give some.

Anonymous said...