Papa PME was
a successful professional and about to retire quite comfortably. His only son,
the darling of the family, had completed his A level and applying to get into a
local university. Unfortunately he did
not get the course he wanted to do and went back to Papa PME with his
disappointment. Papa told his son not to worry. Go apply to get into a
reputable university overseas and pursue his dream and his favourite
course. After a successful lifelong
career and with some decent savings, life was convenient and options were
plenty when money was not an issue.
Son was
successful in getting himself admitted into a reputable university in
Australia. Everything ended up well as expected and it was time for a big
celebration. All the kakis of Papa, all PMEs, were invited to a big send off
party for Son on the eve of his departure to pursue his dream in Australia.
The next few
years were all happy stories from Australia. Son reported his academic
achievements year by year and was in the Dean’s List. And he graduated with a
good honours degree. Papa was a very happy man. You could se pride oozing out
from all his orifices. He was the toast
among his kakis when they met for a drink. Son was doing Papa proud and it was
money well spent.
Son did so
well and was offered to do his masters. Papa was again joyous with the good
news and told Son money was no problem. Time passed so quickly and son was soon
home with his gleaming masters’ degree. The whole world opened up to him.
Another big party was thrown on his return. And Papa was the envy of all his
kakis. In the party they were looking admiringly at this young man and offered
all the advices they could for a wonderful career ahead. There were so many
options with such a fine degree and a fine young man. Getting a good job was
not a problem. All the doors would be
open to this Son of Papa PME.
After the
mandatory one month of holiday to see the world, a reward from Papa PME for
doing so well in his studies, Son came back and started to write his beautiful
resume. He shared with Papa’s kakis in their drinking sessions of his
aspiration and ambition. There was so much confidence in the young man and he
was looking for a very bright and illustrious career ahead.
A few weeks
passed. No news. A few months passed, all Son could get were a couple of
interviews but no job offer. As the days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to
months, the smile and confidence on the face of the young man disappeared. He
started to get worried. The kakis and Papa PME told him not to worry. There were
many applicants and competition was tough but with his good degrees, a masters’
included, and from a reputable overseas Australian university, it was only a
matter of time for him to land a job.
More than a
year gone by. Son lost all his confidence and hope of landing a job. He
suffered depression. He could not believe that he was not good enough to get a
job with his good academic records. He
withdrew himself socially and hid in his room most of the day. Papa PME too
stop joining the drinking sessions. He was so disillusioned, disheartened and
feeling so ashamed that his son was still unemployed after more than a year
from graduation. Papa turned into a recluse.
There was no
one to talk to. It must be their faults. The son was not good enough, no good
for employment. It was as if the light shut on them. All the hopes, promises,
confidence and the dreams of a better life, of a successful young man were
doomed. There was no more light. Someone snuffed it out for them.
More than
$300k and 6 years of slogging in a reputable Australian university and Papa and
Son could not believe they were all wasted. And Papa’s savings started to look
perilous. He rented a room to a couple of young foreign talents. And they could
not understand why they were so happy, and could get jobs so easily, earning
more than $4,000 each. And better still, their degrees were from their 3rd
World universities, unknown, unrated.
Papa and Son were so ashamed to tell them that Son got a masters’s
degree when the two tenants advised the Son to study hard to get a degree and
to get a good job. Son ended up doing some temp job quietly for $20 a day.
PS. The
story is genuine though with some dramatics to make it sound interesting. How
many Singaporeans, how many papas and mamas, are disappointed after spending a
fortune on their favourite children to get a good education only to find out it
was a vain hope, a wasted effort? And
the poor child ended up in depression or a broken person, losing all faith and
confidence in himself or herself? Does anyone care? Would our responsible and
caring govt care? Do they know what is happening?
I was so depressed after hearing this story. I am so angry.