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3/24/2008

We are so obnoxious and intolerant

Someone asked me how was Gayle Goh's blog doing. I thought she was doing fine. For those who have forgotten about her, she was the junior college girl who caused a sensation when a civil servant, Bilahari, replied in her blog. So I went back to her blog and was disappointed. She has stopped blogging. In her last few posts she revealed vaguely, that she was kind of being attacked personally by the obnoxious and insensible people of paradise. She felt so hurt that she found it better to stop blogging, or if she were to do it again, she would do it under a pseudonym. Couldn't our society accept the views and existence of a young school girl? Is it fair to attack her and destroy her self confidence and make her feel so disappointed with the adult world? Some have encouraged her to keep on posting. I would too. But given her youth, it is not easy for her to take all the insinuations bravely. She would not be as thick skin as me nor to confront her attackers headon. She does not know how to brandish her knuckle duster to fend for herself. We have just lost the views and contribution of a young and promising blogger.

6 comments:

elfredinario said...

It is actually better 'out there'. Such trash in society is not unnormal, but the society is better if you (eg) observe China's blogs.

Apparently, it has to do with our 'uniqueness'... or being a barbarian state.

Anonymous said...

Welcome to the real world. It's great to be an adult isn't it?

Matilah_Singapura said...

> She felt so hurt that she found it better to stop blogging, or if she were to do it again <

Ah. SHe received 'feedback'. That's how we all learn about the world.

> Is it fair to attack her <

Probably not, but then there are many aspects of life that are 'unfair'. The only way to deal with them is to be AN ADULT, and not whinge about it but concentrate on finding solutions. (Focus on solutions, not the hurtful problem)

> and destroy her self confidence and make her feel so disappointed with the adult world? <

This is complete nonsense.

We all create our own emotions. No one can make you 'feel bad' without your permission. You and you alone are responsible for how 'good' or 'bad' you feel - regardless of how people treat you or what happens to you.

If you don't accept what I've just written, that's ok - you'll just end up a victim and find comfort in your self-induced self-pity which will provide you with a constant excuse to fail at life.

Get over it!

> given her youth, it is not easy for her to take all the insinuations bravely <

It's time to grow up then, and expand the skill set. ;-)

> We have just lost the views and contribution of a young and promising blogger. <

Absolute nonsense. She did so out of choice. She can make a choice to start blogging again. It's not the end of the world to have a break, just because you got more 'heat' than you could have imagined.

Cut the kid some slack...

redbean said...

hi elfredinario,

welcome to the blog. sorry i miss your point. care to elaborate.

as for matilah's comment, ok, we can expect and demand that she grows up quickly to face the real world. she has to learn the hard way and be tough.

for a young girl just starting out, i would not go and bash her up. we can criticise and put different views, but i think what we can avoid is to hit someone personally or below the belt. ouch!

Anonymous said...

Well, like the professionals, blogs are also subject to erh, self-regulation. If your posting is untrue or inaccurate you must be prepared to be corrected. So, in a sense cyberspace is not all about untruth and inaccuracy. I wonder who regulate the MSM because they claim to be independent of the invisible hand.

redbean said...

i have just posted an article on the media and how people perceived them.