Read this in the TRE. ‘According to the
Lianhe Zaobao, an 11-year old boy had committed suicide by jumping off a
block at 470A Fernvale Link yesterday (18 May). … the
boy’s mother was seen crying next to the his body while his father
apologised continuously. It is unclear why the suicide took place but the
boy was supposed to go to school to collect his exam papers so that his
parents can acknowledge his results and sign it.’
We are hearing more and more of such tragic stories of our young being stressed out and even committing suicide. We had Benjamin Lim, now this 11 year old, likely to be related to the stressful education system.
My advice to parents, please treasure your children. They are here for you to enjoy them, to share your love, joy, pain and unhappiness and whatever together. Love them and treat them well. Not every child will score straight As or do exceptionally well in school. A child is gifted in many ways, not just academically. Enjoy them, nurture them and look at their good sides and their blessings.
A child needs a lot of tender loving care and support from the parents and adults, including teachers in schools. The child is in the care of parents and teachers to grow up to be responsible and healthy adults, not just to score in examinations. They need to know that they are being loved and wanted by their families, precious to their families for what they are. And anyone that has no feelings or empathies for chlldren should not be teachers. The MOE must get rid of them from the system.
Do not take it out on the children. Do not mistreat children, do not leave them in the lurch, in the hands of beasts when they are in trouble when they are doing badly in examinations or socially. It is in such times that they really need the parents and the teachers. The last thing is for the parents and teachers to desert them like they are outcasts, lepers, to be left on their own in times of need when help and love are what they need most.
This 11 year old child and Benjamin would still be around if parents and teachers are there to give them a helping them in their hours of darkness and despair. Love your children, love the children. The last thing, do not treat every child as a hopeless case, a hardcore criminal. Only evil, wicked and irresponsible beasts would do that to hapless and defenceless children.
Do not let this incident and Benjamin Lim to happen again. Parents, adults, teachers, police officers, you better take note. Young innocent lives are at stake. Do not be the cause of tragedies of young lives. Do not take it out on young children. Do not abuse your authority. Do not be irresponsible.
31 comments:
The MOE Ministers changed frequently and each of them with superb new ideas thinking out of the box will implemment new policies experimenting with the children like guineas pigs or white lab rats.
Many nowadays parents, those with a much higher education thinks that No problem, whatever they changed or implemented our children smart enough to adapt.
Anyway, they have the resources and connections to make sure their children are on top of the cream.
But for most not so fortunate struggling families, their children at a disadvantage from start they are unable to cope and all are in the same race, so no choice has to push their children to cross the bars of examinations.
Not all children are smart enough to do well.
Now even school got school counsellors. Unheard of during our time. They must be expecting many stress breakdowns and suicidal cases with their stupid policies.
From kindergarten to unis, parents pushed their kids for the papers thinking this is the way for them to have a comfortable life.
Even now stupid NUS lab experimenting babies with linguistics abilities.
Think they have to built many many IMH institutions to cope with all these stressed children later into adults very soon.
Anyway, Damon stupid isn't it.
After obtaining the best results, you find yourself being phased out by the foreign trashes who had their carefree childhood and just a piece of trash fake degree secure the jobs before you.
1500 IT jobs from DBS outsourced to India. Why you study so hard for what??
Go for upgrading??
HUN CHIAN LEADERS.
You think sinkies kids are made of Amos's superior brand of shark's fin spine? In his case, the authorities, and people, are attempting to push him off the edge as he pushes the boundaries of truths and liberty.
Your over valued and over paid leaders are too busy touring and enjoying life "at work".
so stressful...............
so much to study...........
so little time to play.....
at the end still got to compete with FTs to find job.........
at the end still being replaced by cheaper FTs........
at the end cannot find job.......
at the end worked as taxi uncles, cleaners or security guards.....
at the end if no choice worked as exercise cardboard collectors......
so why study so hard.....
LPPL...LPPL....LPPL.......
hahaha........
My lakopi kaki towkay told me that he keep telling those Ah Peks that he sent for training to meet the Progressive Wage Model that passing the examination is not important so long as they try their best.
He said some bortartcheh dunno angmo ah peks looks depressed.Now got to engage a cheekopek self claim counsellor like me to talk yellow to them to avoid suicides.
Ah peks feel more hurt when being discourage to continue with the course by lecturers at those so call institutes in front of other trainees.
If any Ah Pek jump because of failing to pass those courses, those no brainer activist who keep calling for minimum wage are partly to be blame.
You CANT think and you have no spine. Go fuck off better
Agongkia, tuakee wanted to make appointment to meet you. When are u free this weekend?
agongkia u so free so just give the tuakee blowjob Lor
AhGongKia, why you dead set against minimum wage??
The reason being these evil eunuchs henchman like yourself sucking up to your bosses need to have more monies than your fellow colleagues.
Evil advisors parasites so has to Sak kak bosses made lives difficult for your own kind.
Be careful, Heavens watching you. Today is Vesak Day
Another carp of upgrading Bullshits.
Those so called professional bodies or associations holding all these power Bullshits upgrading courses just want a chunk of the millions allocated by the equally foolish ones to con you by diverting attention to the miseries around.
What your lar kopi towkays business? ?
At best the norm for most Sinkies onn shu or sure lost business of Labour suppliers, cleaning jamban two dollar companies.
At better best transport or logistics sundown companies.
Even have to sneak in as independent director to divert business to their undeclared companies getting the contracts from its principals
You want to train your cleaners how to pick up shits double quick time in their upgrading courses.
You want to train your labourers to pick up the containers without using the shore cranes to load onto ships.
These ungrading courses are only for those who has to refresh their ongoing data terminology from time to time in their course of work as new formats are evolving from time to time after refinement.
Not for those that their jobs scopes are already limited to expand.
Many of these affiliated professional associations etc with their greedy already well paid executives and managers still wants to dig further into these goldmine
Most of them offering themselves as lecturers are in league with their counterparts to Jack up the bill higher as the funds are from the Ah Kong and not from their pockets.
But these are taxpayer's monies.
"Love them and treat them well. "RB.
I think this approach to love the child may lead to wrong consequence similar to the 11 yo who chose to: jump down.
Parent must not think this way that "treat them well" is always good for the child. NO NO NO.
Spend time with the child. Involve your own time with the child. This is not same as treating the child well such as buying the favorite meal at fish and cold. Spend the child in expensive school like hengli primary.
Spend your time with the children for what? To watch them play and advise them whenever they play. They want to show u how good they are and how weak they are. In the process, the children gain the love in their heart and confidence.
Parents learn about their children s own weaknesses, right from their daily problems to their eyesights.
Parents, dont learn the wrong love. Spend time with your children, u will find ways to solve their shortcomings.
If parents dont spend time with their children, and not knowing their children s shortcomings, they will expect something the children cannot achieve. The children will have NO means to express what they want.
Some may choose to die. Parents: learn the way to love: involve with children s day to day life to help them: this is real love.
Laochek ah.
Tired of talking about MW since so many khongcum cannot see the side effect or how it actually benefit foreigners more.I am only concern about suicides here.
Like Uncle RB said above,
Do not be the cause of tragedies of young lives,oops me is elderly lives.Ah Pek's life oso important.
/// My advice to parents, please treasure your children. They are here for you to enjoy them, to share your love, joy, pain and unhappiness and whatever together. Love them and treat them well. Not every child will score straight As or do exceptionally well in school. A child is gifted in many ways, not just academically. Enjoy them, nurture them and look at their good sides and their blessings. ///
Dear redbean
This is one of your best passages that you have ever written.
Dear parents
Create a child-friendly environment here in Singapore.
Please consider voting Opposition in 2020.
I dunno why everyone is shitting on agongkia and his hard truths of reality.
As for "depression" amongst the Ah Pek brigade, the approach is all wrong. The depression must be treated FIRST before attempting to reeducate and retrain these folks.
And you can't effectively "talk" a sufferer out of their depression. You need to treat it as a medical disorder.
The same for the now-smashed-up-and-very-dead 11 year old who chose "death by Einstein".
**Einstein said that gravity is the the manifestation of the curvature of space-time. This curvature is caused by the presence of mass or energy, and an object in "free fall" will follow the path of the "geodesic"**
In this case the path of the object (11 year old boy) was from his point of origin high up on the block, to the hard ground below.
In UNENLIGHTENED Singapore, mental conditions are treated by the population as some kind of joke...usually making a reference to IMH somewhere along the way.
As such, when depression strikes, it is a "stigma". The people who are depressed as thought of as "softies" or "too sensitive" or just plain old lazy losers. Their idiotic friends and family tell them to "Cheer up!" or "Pull yourself together!" or buy them some silly book by fakes like Dr Phil or Deepark Chopra and suchlike, or take them off to church or temple to "pray" to an imaginary friend.
All they needed to do was to see their doctor and get referred to a specialist who would treat depression as a MEDICAL condition. They could have a GABA or dopamine deficiency. In the older men, it could be low testosterone levels (due to aging). Male HRT is a REAL THING and drugs like Nebido works better than the "miracles" performed by faith healers and other quacks. (which doesn't happen anyway because they are straight out scams.)
My 75 year old "sifu" went on Nebido. He was feeling down, low energy, anxiety, "dark" thoughts. Within 3 months he was slimmer, put on about 2 kg of muscle and had the sprite of a much younger man. He could fuck twice a day, not at all bad for a 75 year old!
Your brain is a mass of chemicals, electricity and complex structure. Any deviation from the "norm" in any of these areas has an effect.
Until Singapore adopts an understanding of mental conditions, more and more people of all ages will be taking their lives, and assholes like redbean and his disciples will seek to blame parents, society etc etc.
Fuck you redbean, et al.
It is too easy to blame SG school system, thinking ours are the most sadistic. We are all wrong, the elite education system of white man land are extremely tough.
The peasant system of ours is extremely relax also, dont believe go and visit NA/NT.
"A child needs a lot of tender loving care and support from the parents and adults, including teachers in schools."
RB
Why don't you ask ruling PAP to improve the education system? Why must school children depend so much on tuition rather than the school to teach them? Why so many expensive extra curricular activities for school children? For GDP growth?
/// Why don't you ask ruling PAP to improve the education system? Why must school children depend so much on tuition rather than the school to teach them? Why so many expensive extra curricular activities for school children? For GDP growth? ///
May 21, 2016 1:30 pm
Stop wasting your time in asking PAP to improve.
Just vote Opposition in GE 2020.
Guarantee PAP will improve.
Remember.
Stop asking.
Just give your feedback by voting Opposition.
The Opposition MPs will give feedback directly to the PAP government in Parliament.
We don't have access to the PAP Ministers.
The Opposition MPs have access to the PAP Ministers in parliament.
This is how a democracy is supposed to work.
Matilah, super. You seemed to know all these depression medications.
Must be having them like vitamins.
Anyway, Bipolars are actually very smart people.
When on high, superhuman.
When on low, suicidal.
On IMH list 007 license to kill - valuable.
On OGS and no need to Pay boarding and medical plus medication fees.
But if you are not really stressed by all these unnecessarily man created Shits and backstabbings, you really no need these vitamins.
How many are genetic? ?
Did not realized i live in a mentally unhealthy society called singapore led by world most expensive costly politicians.
Went thro site like apa, it alarmed 56 child suicide in US. On 1 sg site, it said 21% children thinking of suicide. Comparing to US, singapore is a mentally unhealthy society.
The reasons list in US apa site about suicides are: drugs, mentally unsound, bullying, personal violence,and a few more.
Except bullying, i cannot find suitable factor to explain Ben Lim suicide. For the ll yo child, bullying could be the reason as well.
Singapore adults are bullying children even they are legal, school administrators or real parents?
The children are dead. Will the adults admit their excesses?
Just vote Opposition in GE 2020.
Guarantee PAP will improve.
Anon 1:42 pm
Sorry lah, you are still a minority, even in 2020.
After working for 20 years and still a junior staff, you expect to be a CEO in 2020?
The more kids end their
Lives unaturally.the more
Bad things will happen.
Upset nature is not a good idea.
Hey Matilda dug deep into the internet and presents his craps here like a science madcap.
Is it dopamine deficiency that lead to depression and hence makes one suicidal or a depressed person becomes dopamine deprived and becomes suicidal?
Be clear about facts of living and that is lack of money, love and health is the reason and main cause of problems which then leads to despair, depression and then when hopelessness sets in, it then causes the sufferer to become suicidal.
Chemical and Psychological helps maybe helpful but they are no cure to poverty and illness. In fact one main cause of problems for Sinkies is the high cost of living, including healthcare.
Money and love is the best medicine,
NOT Dopamine or sweat talk or
fuck talk.
Matilah selling his
koyok
to the folks here
like
Agongkia the Pappy.
Ah Pek brigade..hahaha.
Style so ah pek and so stinky, can smell these dead rats even if they were buried miles deep in earth hahahaha
useless sinkies fcukers hahaha
You know how you can spot sinkies overseas? there is a distinctive style with each age groups and gender and the kind of insults they are...erm...fond of hahahaha...low class idiots..hahahaha
Thanks Mr chua. It was really sad and painful for both parents to lose their precious son in this way.
Agree with you that those who have no feeling for children should not be teacher.
Ben is a real true example that happened in school. Very disappointed with the way the principal, school counsellor Karry Lung , disciplinary mistress Steff Chan handled Ben when he was hopless. They treated him like a table cleaning cloth, suka suka throw him here and there.
I have signed petition ' We demand the prinicpal Remington Chen of North View to step dowm from his post immediately.'
Where is the petition? Remind him that if he does not step down, he may get a stroke.
Looking forward to the kid next video
Sifu Matilah
Send my regards to my SaiKong.
Hope at age 75,we can do better, maybe 4 times a day.
长江后浪推前浪
Cheers
its a disease, they can't help themselves.
Haha....
U can definitely do better with Viagra, Chialis, Longke etc.
猛龙来咯!
@ 1037:
>> U can definitely do better with Viagra, Chialis, Longke etc. <<
Actually no. The above mentioned are for erectile dysfunction only.
Male HRT redresses the decline in testosterone ("T") levels usually due to the aging processes. When you are diagnosed with low T levels and prescribed a course of T injections, you don't just become "hornier" and more "virile", you lose fat and put on MUSCLE. This is how a healthy 75 yr old should look like if you still want to be fucking like a demon at that age, WITHOUT viagra etc.
@ "over enthusiastic" Virgo49:
>> Matilah, super. You seemed to know all these depression medications. <<
No, I don't. I am not a doctor, I am just a lowly beach-bum with minimal "education".
All I am saying is, that before people "make up their mind" about a loved-one's emotional or mental state get a real doctor to check them out for signs of depression, and then treat it as a MEDICAL condition not a bullshit "spiritual" or "moral" failing.
@ "fucking ignorant ARSE" 442:
>> Money and love is the best medicine,
NOT Dopamine or sweat talk or
fuck talk. <<
Yup. Typical Singaporean with poor intellectual skills. This is why the PAP has to replace defective locals like this.
You are no good for the cuntry. You should disappear ;-)
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